Kinky/BDSM Pet Peeves – Day 18 of 30 Days of Kink

fullsizeoutput_4757Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?

I guess one of my biggest pet peeves is the fakes that are out there, both Dom/mes and submissives.  On Twitter, Fetlife, and just any social media where there is a Kink/BDSM community for them to hit.  I have personally experienced the fake Doms, and I know some Doms that have experienced the fake submissives.

They prey on the new submissives that don’t know better and are in the “sub frenzy” my friends Kayla Lords and John Brownstone have talked about several times on their podcast (they have a long line of them so check them out when you get a chance).  This is explained as a new submissive being very excited about getting a Dom and starting to get into the kink/BDSM world and all that goes into it so they are not careful and can be taken advantage of very easily.

And then there are the fake submissives that work on the Doms that are looking for that special submissive they can take care of and protect.  They will use those Doms to pay for things and to play with them, until they get tired and move on to the next one.

It makes me angry, not only a pet peeve, and I guess that’s because it happened to me.  You just don’t do that to people.  I wish there was some kind of tool or something that would tell people the fakes are there and to keep away!

Kat xx

*Pic used from Tumblr

 

2 thoughts on “Kinky/BDSM Pet Peeves – Day 18 of 30 Days of Kink

  1. Oh i totally feel you on your pet peeve! And it is so much worse when the fakes get a place of importance in those social networks, because suddenly their word is guidance for others truly trying to learn, and they end up learning garbage founded on lies! The effects of fakes is so far reaching.

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