Sexy Saturday’s #SoSS

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I am late but had to get this in! Another week that has flown by.  I participated as much as I could this week so had fun with my writing.  There are so many talented writers on here!!

Here are some of the ones I enjoyed the most:

Masturbation Monday:

The Brotherhood by The Library of Nell is a sexy beginning of a story I can’t wait to read more of and find out what is next!!

When Lust Lives On by FlossDoesLife is about the love/sex life of a grandmother and her remembering those days.

Theatre by Asrai Devin is about that naughtiness in a theatre that I am sure several people have enjoyed 😉

Wicked Wednesday:

The Past Smells of Men by May More is a great explanation of what the smell of a man can do 😉

Inhale by Kisungura is a lovely description of how the memory of smell can affect us.

Scent by F Dot Leonora is about the lovely scent of home

Sinful Sunday:

Demons by Little Switch Bitch. I love the explination!

Becoming a Butterfly by Submissy is beautiful

A Mermaid Underneath by Aurora Glory is gorgeous

Some other prompts to check out:

TMI Tuesday

Food For Thought Friday

Check out each prompt and jump in next week if you feel so inclined! If not, enjoy some great reads!  🙂

Kat xx

Dom, Sub, Switch? – Day 1 of 30 Days of Kink

I saw a fellow blogger posting the 30 days of Kink challenge and decided I wanted to do this starting today, November 1. So, this should be interesting…here goes:

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

Definitely Submissive!  I love to serve and feel needed.  I feel I need guidance, protection, support and a bit of discipline.  I cannot see myself as a dominant nor switch.

Definition of: What is a sub? By The Ultimate Guide to being a Submissive

The definition of a submissive is an obedient, compliant person who likes to give up control.  They crave being used and need to serve.  They are the subservient partner of a relationship and that is why “sub” is always spelled with a lowercase while “Dom” is always capital.  A submissive can take on many different roles such as:

They strive to please their Dom in all things, not just sexually.  This means that they may have to give up some of their own personal freedoms and preferences.  It is not uncommon for a sub to have a mild and quiet personality. They are obedient, and accept disciplinewhen needed.  Subs aim to conduct themselves  in a respectful and modest manner at all times, recognizing that their behavior is a direct reflection on their Dom.

I don’t completely agree with the above definition, but, it covers all. I am somewhat of a little (DD/lg, D/s-where I don’t do age play but need the guidance and enjoy doing things like coloring, watching movies, etc…), slight masochist and Kitten/babygirl.  I need the freedom to give up my control to center my mind and being.  My mind does the over-thinking, over-analyzing a lot and needs that guidance and giving up of control to lead it to be quiet.  It’s amazing to have that ability in the D/s relationship.

Now, we are all different and have our own ways of doing things and living the lifestyle in our own way.  It is up to the Dom/sub relationship/partners to determine what rules and ways of that D/s relationship they will live and follow, whether it be just a relationship where they get together as scheduled, or a 24/7/365 lifestyle relationship.

So, that is my kinky self…submissive.

Have a wonderful day and Happy November 1!

Kat xx

*Pic from Tinkleberry

Sexy Saturday Picks

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I see a lot of #SoSS posts and realize I am not that great with doing things, what I see as, the “proper” way of doing them, so thought I would try it this way first. 🙂

Maybe this will get me in the right frame of mind for another time (you never know).

Anyway, I decided to pick 2 of my favorite posts for the week from each category I have started following and/or participating in:

Masturbation Monday:

Exposed was yummy! I felt a part of this sexy hot shower scene.

Always was hauntingly sexy and erotic.

TMI Tuesday:

The Pink Seam – Great answers and entertaining, especially about the dentist! 😉

Floss – Love her explanation of name, her saying and her random Harry Potter extra! 🙂

Extra: Maitre – This one is my Daddy’s responses and quite love his saying and absolutely love his random extra!! ❤

Wicked Wednesday:

Mark Me – a definite relatable story about marks

Shades of Purple – a wonderfully light sexy story about her birthday gift and something she will remember when using said gift because of her silly friends. Loved this!

Sinful Sunday:

Since these are sexy pics I am putting them last.

Little Switch Bitch – Love me some cute socks!!

Annie Savoy – Her heart pic is the sweetest!

There are so many others that I liked from all these categories. I am finding out about other weekly posts to join in and am having a lot of fun doing so!!

So far, these are the ones I have participated in:

Sinful Sunday – Found on Molly’s Daily Kiss

Masturbation Monday – Found on Kayla Lords Site

TMI Tuesday – Blog found here

Wicked Wednesday – On Marie Rebelle’s blog

I have not participated in any others yet, as I am just getting started in the last two weeks to jump in.  I hope you find others you enjoy from my sharing and happy writing/reading/finding new blogs to read!!

Enjoy the rest of your weekend!! 🙂

Kat xx

*SS Pic from Pinterest

TMI Tuesday – Why is eating bad food, like having bad sex?

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1. Do you like tattoos? Do you have any tattoos?  I love tattoos, especially if they mean something special to the person.  Yes I have tattoos.

2. How did you pick your online profile name? Just wanted something with “kitten or Kat” since Daddy calls me Kitten most of the time and including Kink (Kinx) in it for my writing.

3. What’s one saying you try to live by? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  I have always believed that what you give out into the world you get back.

4. What was the last bad meal you ate? Why was it so awful? I can’t remember what my last bad meal was and why it was so awful…, I believe it was when I tried fish for breakfast. Nope, not me.

5. When was your last bad sexual encounter? Why was it so awful? I think my last bad sexual encounter was a few years ago when I was trying really hard to make things good and it ended up being worse.

Bonus: Tell us something random.  – Random….hmmm….I want to learn a new language!

Follow the following link to TMI Tuesday:

Happy TMI Tuesday!

TMI Tuesday

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1. If you had three wishes that would come true, what would they be?  Let’s see….    1) To not be afraid to speak my mind. 2) To enjoy the world in travel. 3) Have the money to do what I need to and to benefit others as well.

2. What are your favorite things to spend money on?  My favorite things to spend money on are all the things I need of course, but then there is toys, implements, trips and fun things, for me and those I love.

3. If you could write a song about your life, what type of music would you use?  I would use pop/new age/country mix to get that fun/funky/love life kind of vibe that is me.

4. If you could choose your partner again, would you choose the same person?  No I don’t think I would choose someone like my ex.  I would choose someone like my Daddy.

5. When it comes to discussing your sex life, who do you confide in more than anyone else? That would be, once again, my Daddy. We share so much

Bonus: What’s your definition of cheating? Is there really such a thing?  For those in a monogamous relationship, I believe that, my cheating definition to be, having sex (whether oral or other) with someone else behind your partners back…and it kills a relationship. (Duh!)   Even with those in a poly lifestyle, there needs to be consent when having a relationship sexually with another person out of the norm.   And I definitely believe there is such a thing.

*Pic off Pinterest

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Note To Self…Just Do It!

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Okay…so I am a bit anxious at the moment.  Thoughts going through my head, unsupported/unsubstantial doubts and fears and internal fighting within myself.  I don’t know what brought it on this time, but here it is.

I am trying so hard to learn to not give in to my shame and guilt that my mind likes to take me to for protection.  I am trying really hard to face this and work toward and through it.  It is not easy and I keep falling back to the norm.  It seems I am fighting with myself all the time.

I am not trusting in myself to “speak my truth” enough.  I am getting there, I know I am, but I have a long way to go still.  It’s frustrating knowing I am feeling more and more like I can and then fall back to how I always am in giving in to my fears and doubts.  Avoiding conflict and hurt when I need to be facing it head on so I can move on with my life.  I think I am getting better, than right down that hole I go again!

What is wrong with me?!?! Ugh!

I have the most loving man that supports me, loves me, protects me and guides me.  I know I frustrate him at times, but he is my angel.  Yet I am stuck in my past and so damn scared to move, to cause havoc/chaos/conflict/hurt. What is that?!?

I have help through a counselor every week and have the support and learning of myself and ways to deal with things by talking and understanding what I am dealing with and moving forward in so many ways.

Sometimes I just want to run away from everything and everyone.  I know that is silly and not logical.  It will all catch up to me, of course, and then I am dealing with it all over again.  So, that won’t work.

I have so much ingrained in me that I have done for so long, especially the last 30 years or more, that just realizing this and trying to “fix” myself is damn hard! I want it to happen immediately. No waiting, no working through things…be done now!!

I want to be able to enjoy myself and the decisions I make to make me happy.  I want to not always worry about how I will affect others and make them feel.  I want to be happy and make others happy, yes, but I also want my making others happy as being part of my happy…does that make sense?

I have worked so hard on making those around me happy (yes, it does make me happy that they are happy), but it was to keep away conflict, hurt and others being upset.  It wasn’t always the right thing to do.  For this I have messed up my own boundaries and self-love and made them non-existent. Until recently.  Now I am trying to correct this and it is really hard!  Both for myself and for them.  For myself, because I have steered clear of the conflict, hurt and being upset and now I have to make myself deal with this.  For others, they are used to me being my accepting, do everything to make others happy self, and it causes what I have always avoided.

I wish there was just some switch in myself to flip on to make me automatically do it all now instead of learning to do it all, like new…I know what I need to do, it is just doing it, taking the action in what I have learned is the right thing for me to do.  I want to yell at myself to “Just Do It Already!”

*If you have taken the time to read this, thank you. I know I have a few of these posts here and it can be depressing to read. Or a “here she goes again” kind of thing. (Sorry about that) But, that is one of the reasons I started this blog, was to be able to share some of the things I go through. Hopefully with those that go through the same things as I do. (Which I have found many do) If I wasn’t sharing it here, I would be either writing it down in a book or on my computer. And I seem to get a bit more out of sharing here.  So, thank you for your time and understanding.*  

KK xx

*Beautiful piece of art found on Pinterest

TMI Tuesday – 9/11

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1. When I can’t sleep I listen to sleep sounds or read.  I would say have sex, but not an option at the moment. 😉

2. My dream bedroom would be full of play toys and bdsm furniture.  Okay okay….can I have two bedrooms?…fluffy pillows, stuffies, sheer curtains and bunch of girlie stuff.

3. If I could wake up anywhere tomorrow it would be a place where I felt loved, protected and cherished all the time and somewhere far away for at least a few days. That’s not much to ask for, right?

4. I need to relax and do my thing at night. Now this could be anything…like reading, painting, having sex and orgasms, writing, having sex and orgasms (oh wait, I said that!)

5. To have no one around that loved me and understood me would truly be a nightmare.  I normally don’t have nightmares, that I know of, but I usually don’t remember my dreams, whether good or bad.

6. Night time is the right time to have sex and orgasms. 😉 Okay….sleep and rest.

Bonus: Briefly tell us about your last dream–erotic or not.  WELLLL…. I normally don’t remember my dreams. And I couldn’t tell you the last dream I did wake up and remember.  Although, I do have a lot of day dreams…of sex and orgasms….Hmmmm…I think I might need some of the sex and orgasms I keep mentioning. What do you think? Ha!

Well that was a lot of fun doing this TMI for the first time ever! Thank you!
KK xx

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