You seriously are not alone!


I’ve had a lot going on in my life lately.  It is making me anxious. Giving me feelings of guilt and responsibility for others.  Very emotional and unsettled.  I am trying to deal with all these things best I can and most times hiding it from others.  Those that know me, not so much. 

I have issues and at times I feel very down about myself, who I am as a person and how others see me.  I am getting better about these things every day.  Getting stronger in who I am.  These things are still there for me to deal with, just not as bad.  

I have people that support and love me.  I have a mantra that I try to say every day.  I have techniques on how to deal with some things, such as meditation and breathing, exercise, self-love by spoiling myself at times, etc…

I know I am not the only one out there doing this, but sometimes it feels like I am the only one going through things like this; don’t I know it!  And I just want to you to know, those that might be reading this and feeling the same, that you are not alone, I am doing all of this and getting through. It is hard but I/we can do this! 

You are loved, you are good, you are strong and you will get through this.

Kitty Kat xx

My View of this lifestyle


It’s amazing to me how many different views of this lifestyle there are out there. What I feel is the right view others would not agree with.  And I in turn do not always agree with others’ views.

To me, personally, I understand the D/s lifestyle to be a growing ever-changing relationship between Dom and sub.  Yes, there is the constant power exchange in what is right and wrong, Top/bottom, etc… Yes, there is the leadership/order in the Dom and the following/answering in the sub (per se). But that love is always there. Guiding the two in the life they love and the lifestyle they crave and need with one another.

Everyone has their own beliefs and needs in the lifestyle of BDSM.  No person is wrong in what they believe is their way. Do not hate or put down what others enjoy and believe in.  It is their choice and as long as it is safe, sane and consensual between the adults taking part, it is to their own choosing.

I have gone through a lot in the past few years and am so thankful I found this way of life.  I believe it is the reason I am stronger today than I was a few years ago.  I believe it gives me even more strength than I have ever had before.  I love the person I have become and am continuing to be.  I have the support of an ever-loving Dom that guides, supports, nurtures and protects me always.  His love carries me on through each day.  I am determined every day to make him happy and show him how very much he means to me.

One thing I love about this lifestyle is that it is an always changing, always developing, always moving thing.  To me it does not get stagnant and does not get boring.  We try, and learn, new things, new ways of doing things; in play, life and sexual means.  We spur one another on, in writing, learning, feelings, and just everything.  It warms my soul to know how much we mean to each other.  He is my muse and I am his.

I know when one of us is feeling down, we can normally lift the other up just by talking, hearing the other’s voice, listening and talking through things.  We are so in tune to each other we usually know when something is not quite right and needs to be dealt with and communicated.  It’s not always like this.  We have to work at it always.  But we do come back around to it through us trusting in one another and talking it out.

My view of this lifestyle is most likely very mild compared to many.  It is a deep relationship to me.  Not only is it D/s, a bit of S/M, but a relationship that can last a lifetime.

Do you?

IMG_1673Do you have issues you are trying to deal with and think no one else has those issues nor understands what you are going through? Do you feel all alone in what you are going through,  I do too at times and it can get overwhelming and frightening.  There is always someone to talk to and to just share your problems with.  I am finding this out for myself and just want others out there to know the same.  No one is alone even though it feels like it at the time.  There is always information about things you are going through and how to deal with them in many ways. There are help lines, counselors and people out there you can talk to and share your problems and concerns with.  You are loved.  You are worth it.  You are stronger than you know.