Fried Brain

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Well…

My brain just feels fried right now.  Don’t know why.  It’s like it’s turned its creativity right off!  I can’t seem to get anything written so thought I would just type about what is going on, or not going on. Ha!

I guess everyone does this, but it’s very frustrating when you feel like you are just starting to get it.  I think it is so great how many of the bloggers have memes/prompts to help writers and other bloggers work up stories to share.  I know it has helped me.

And knowing this, I don’t want to stop because I can actually see my work getting a bit better.  So, why oh why does my brain feel it needs a break??

Okay, so, I will take a break right now, get some sleep and hopefully get back to it full force tomorrow!! 😉

Muah!

Kat xx

Love to Share – #SoSS

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The longer I am here blogging and sharing with fellow bloggers, and getting to know so many, I am learning so much.  Not only about me and others here, but about my writing and where I would like to take it.  It not only scares me but gets me excited about the possibilities.  I have always just written what was in my head with no thought about things like repetition or clichés or even the right words in explaining things.  By doing my writing the way I have, it caught people’s attention, I guess being straight from my head and heart.  But it wasn’t catching the attention of those that would come back for more.  It’s very gratifying to get comments from writers I respect.  And, I will admit, I was very shy to give comments to those same writers (shoot any writers really) because I felt my comments were not a big deal or wouldn’t really mean anything.  I have, thankfully, realized that was the silliest thing to think. Everyone appreciates comments, feedback and likes regarding what they write.  How else will you know you are reaching people and doing it “right” for those reading your work.  In other words, knowing your writings are being read and meaning something to someone other than yourself.

So, on with my sharing for the week!

*I participated in three memes/prompts this week:

Masturbation MondayFantasies

Wicked WednesdayThe Fear is Real

Friday FlashLuck of The Draw

*Smut Marathon – The voting for Round 2 of the Smut Marathon (brought to you by Marie Rebelle of Rebel’s Notes) begins tomorrow (March 3) until Friday, March 8.  Please drop by and vote for your 3 favorite stories.

*EuphOff 2019 – Now open for entries! The EuphOff 2019 (brought to you by The Other Livvy) is now open for entries beginning March 1 and must have them posted before March 31.  Looks like great fun and you can find the rules in the link above.

*Eroticon is on March 15 (Meet & Greet) -17! Just less than two weeks away! There are so many bloggers and writers that will be there.  Everyone is excited and looking forward to meeting virtual friends in person, for the first time or once again.  You can check out many bloggers’ Eroticon Virtual Meet & Greet on their blogs or twitter (I can’t share everyone’s posts so just look for “Eroticon Virtual Meet and Greet”).

*Podcasts – I know this is not talked about much, if at all, but there are many bloggers that actually have podcasts too! If you, as a blogger, has a podcast audio and/or video, please let me know and I will include it next time 🙂

Check out these I know of and listen to:

Loving BDSM w/Kayla Lords and John Brownstone; Masturbation Monday for stories read by John Brownstone; and The Smutlancer by Kayla Lords.  They also have a YouTube Podcast for Loving BDSM! (I hope I covered them all)

Proud to be Kinky w/Floss of Floss Does Life and Bakji

Other Memes and/or Prompts to read or participate in:

Sinful Sunday

Masturbation Monday

TMI Tuesday

Wicked Wednesday

Friday Flash

Food For Thought Friday

Fantasy Smut Friday

Kink of the Week

Erotic Journal Challenge

Tell Me About…

Sex Bloggers for Mental Health

February Photo Fest brought to you by Molly’s Daily Kiss, has come to a close and if you didn’t get a chance to catch up on all the great pictures shared, you can go back here to do so!

I know I have shared a lot so hope I haven’t overwhelmed you.  Trusting you all are having a great weekend and will have a great week!

Kat xx

The Fear Is Real

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This is not a sexy wicked story of fear.  This is real fear that is my truth to share today.  I have several fears I deal with daily.  Do you?

Mine from the past and present…Fear of disapproval, fear of letting people I love down and those around me down, fear of shame taking over, fear of losing those I love, fear of not being able to just be me and fear of losing myself again.

As a child I always had the fear of those around me, especially my parents, disapproving in me and the things I did.  Fear of not being good enough in the things  I did.  Or even just good enough for others to be around and love me.  I wanted to always make others happy and proud of me.  I avoided conflict as best I could and always was the one to try to make things better because of it.  I feared if I didn’t then I would lose the love and understanding of those around me that I loved, both family and friends.  I would feel shame if I did something wrong or what I saw as being wrong in other’s eyes.  Feeling this way was because of clues I would believe were there, such as shaking of the head, eyes looking into mine as if I was supposedly hiding something they had to find, a sigh or disappointing remark and then turning away;  so many ways for a then child up to young adult to see and take in a negative way.

Because of these things I was in constant fear of not doing things right.  Of not being good enough for anyone or for anything.  Fear that I would never find the right fit for a career, life, love, friendship, basically anything.

I felt that I wasn’t good enough in school, even though I graduated from both high school and college.   I got lower grades in both and ended up with a lower average, but still graduated and received my degree.  Proving right there I accomplished something, but in my mind it wasn’t good enough.  I know now that is wrong, but I still believed it.

Once I received my degree I started my career.  I was really good at it, to begin with, but I think with my self-doubt and feelings of not good enough, I self sabotaged myself.  Now I could be wrong in this self-analysis, but every time I did great at a job, I would end up not doing well and either looking for something new or being released from said job.

I know at the time I was married I thought and believed it was the one and only love I would need, throughout life.  Unfortunately circumstances changed and changed us to the point I felt I had lost and could not trust the relationship anymore because I had fought for it for so long and it never got better.  It was the one thing I did not give up on, for years, until I finally had to, for my own well being unfortunately.

Where friendships are concerned, I kept a safe distance from anyone.  I would get close and think I could trust and then something would happen to change the relationship or we just drifted apart.  I don’t know if this is once again self sabotage happening in these circumstances, but it happened, every time.  I have never had a really close friendship with anyone, and I think it was because in the past the person I trusted or got close to either stabbed me in the back or went away.  I felt I could never trust enough to hold on to someone who mattered that much to me.

I am not saying this for pity or for you to be sad for me.  It’s just a fact that I am coming to accept and understand and felt I should share.

I have friends now I consider close, but I am always on edge or on the lookout for the relationship to fail because of the past and that is not fair to those that are my friends. Not at all, and I know this.

So, even now, I have a hard time not being afraid that all these things will continue to be the same, happen in the same way as the past.  But I have to live my life the best way I can and I have to trust that things happen for a reason, people are in my life (or out of my life) for a reason and I am learning every day because of it.

The biggest fear I have over all is losing myself in all this.  I have before and I will not, repeat, will not, lose myself again.  I am finding myself again and learning to love the person I am, no matter what some might say, no matter how some might not approve.  I am me and I am accepting that and those around me need to, or unfortunately they need to move on.  I am working through my fears and feel confidant that one day I will be able to walk through them all, no matter how conflicted I am to do so.  I am surrounding myself with support and love.  Those that accept me for who I am now.

We all change, and hopefully for the better, because of ourselves and those around us.

Kat xx

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Sexy Saturday Share – #SoSS

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Participating in the Smut Marathon has me a bit off regarding writing.  I took some time to soak up the appreciated input I received on my entry and then took more time trying to decide what story to write for round two.  I have now written my story and I have stepped away from it.  I will revisit it later today to go over and possibly make changes.  I have four more days to get that in.  

Also, I was asked by Kayla Lords to choose the top three for this week’s Masturbation Monday.  I was so honored and so excited that she asked me! I have followed her podcast, twitter account and her blog posts since Daddy introduced their podcast, Loving BDSM, to me, approximately three years ago. We became fast friends virtually and I cannot wait to meet her and John Brownstone in person! Yay!!  Go here to check out all the posts for Masturbation Monday.  

My top three picks are:

In Bed With Layla by Floss Does Life

Vicki’s Dream by Lascivious Lucy

Fast and Furious by Kilted Wookie

There are so many other prompts and memes to check out and participate in.  Marie Rebelle of Rebel’s Notes does an awesome job of listing them and the dates for each, every week.  On her blog you can find them here and here.

The ones I have participated in before and/or recently are these:

Sinful Sunday

Masturbation Monday

TMI TuesdayMy post

Wicked WednesdaySo Many Colors

Friday FlashSo Many Colors

Food For Thought Friday

Fantasy Smut Friday

Kink of the Week

Erotic Journal Challenge

Soooo many sexy writings to read, and pictures to see!  So enjoy reading the latest stories, pictures (well, seeing) and poetry offered on these wonderful memes/prompts.  Give comments and likes when you can because they are much appreciated by all.  Have a wonderful weekend and great week!

Kat xx

Write…Read…What’s next?? – #SoSS

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A little late, but better late than never, right?! 😉

There is so much going on right now! So many prompts a person can participate in and read!  I want to do them all!! 

Unfortunately I can’t and I hate it because I would love to give everyone my support all the time.  And it helps me with my writing.  But, even if you are great with scheduling things and doing them, it’s still hard to cover them all.  And I am not one that is very good at that. 

AND, I am participating in the Smut Marathon.  I thought I was clever doing a poem type writing for my first story since it was so short.  Obviously I was wrong. 😦  I have already started learning from it with a few recommendations and helpful insights (thank you to all who left comments!).  So, I am still in it for this next round (2) and will hopefully get to the next one.  Crossing fingers, toes, hair….well, you get the jest.  

Anywho…

Here are the prompts I participated in this past week and a few more that are available for your participation or reading pleasure. 🙂

Masturbation Monday:  Wicked Daddy

TMI Tuesday:  My Post

Wicked Wednesday:  Erotic Photo

Friday Flash:  Locked Together in Love

Others prompts:

Sinful Sunday

Menstruation Matters

The Erotic Journal Challenge

February Photofest

Fantasy Smut Friday

Food For Thought Friday

Lingerie is for Everyone

Kink of the Week

Sex Bloggers for Mental Health

Tell Me About Dominance and Submission

There is some really great advice out there if you are interested.  For all of us writers out there, if you didn’t see the input for our writing, please go to the voting page of the Smut Marathon and see what you can learn!

I love when you can get advice from those that have “been there, done that,” so kinda have an insight on how things might work.  Check out the unsolicited, yet quite helpful, advice from Brigit Delaney regarding things to look for and possible insight on writing.

Better get back to getting ready for my next writing assignment! Have a great week and enjoy, whether writing, reading or both!

Kat xx

 

The State of Happy – TMI Tuesday

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1. Do you like where you live or do you wish you could move? I do like where I live but life is ever changing and I know there are other places I would love to live some day….Like… the beach…. another country… the mountains…

2. No matter what life throws at me, I believe that I can deal with it. Agree or Disagree? I agree.  I have so far and lived through it.  I believe I can deal even though at times it doesn’t feel like I can.

3. A dear friend is stuck in an unhappy relationship. What advice would you give to the friend to cope–how can they make lemonade out of lemons? It’s hard to cope through an unhappy relationship.  I have found that sometimes you have to let go of something to be happy again.  Thing is, I can’t tell anyone that, they have to find out for themselves.  All I can do is be there for them and support them through it.

4. Nothing of value can be learned from failure. True or False? False!  At least in my opinion.  I believe we all can learn from failure.  There is a lesson in all things, whether it is doing great or failing.

5. Even if you are sure about your ultimate choice, do you still ask others for advice before making an important or risky decision? I do, just because that is who I am.  I like to know all my options or know what others see that I may not see before making the ultimate decision.  But that ultimate decision is always mine, no one else can make it for me nor be held responsible for it.

Bonus: What is the sweetest or rewarding moment in your life?  There are a couple moments I can think of.

Knowing my children have done well.  And knowing myself and where I am going and doing with my life.

Kat xx

See who else is sharing this TMI Tuesday:

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Mind Boggling Crazy #SoSS

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I didn’t get my Sharing post out last weekend.  Way too much going on and boggling crazy mind elsewhere.

I really enjoyed joining in on the prompts this week and sharing a bit as well.  AND, I turned in my first entry for the Smut Marathon! (This is run by Marie Rebelle of Rebel’s Notes)  Eeeek!!  Judging starts this Sunday (2/10/19).

There are a few new/fairly new prompts to take part in and they are:

The Erotic Journal Challenge by Brigit Writes

Lingerie Is For Everyone by Violet Fawkes

February Photofest by Molly of Molly’s Daily Kiss (Only for February)

Fantasy Smut Friday by Forbidden Writings

Kink of The Week by Molly of Molly’s Daily Kiss

Menstruation Matters – by A to Sub Bee

Sex Bloggers for Mental Health – by Sassy Cat

Here I will share some of the prompts I participated in this week, and also the prompts for you to be able to go to and check out other bloggers’ works and pics.

Masturbation Monday – by Kayla Lords – Sugar and Spice

TMI TuesdayMy post

Wicked Wednesday – by Marie Rebelle –  Our D/s and How Things Change

Friday Flash – by F Dot Leonora –  Hungry and Taxed

Also:

Sinful Sunday – by Molly of Molly’s Daily Kiss

Food For Thought Friday

Also, this week the amazing Kayla Lords has some great advice on “What to Do Instead of Waiting for Inspiration” on her Smutlancer podcast so check it out for some information you may not have thought of, or possibly for a reminder.

I normally would share my favorite picks from a couple of the prompts I join in on, but wanted to make sure to share the ever-growing list of available prompts to check out and join in on.

*If there are any other prompts I have forgotten or did not include the correct sponsor for these prompts, my humble apologies.*

There are a lot of prompts/memes out there to offer for your writing and reading pleasure.

Enjoy and have a wonderful weekend and new week!!

Kat xx