When Life Gets In The Way

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When life gets in the way, gets busy and takes me away from the other things I enjoy, it gets frustrating and I feel out of the loop, so to speak.  I haven’t been able to give my attention here for the past week since I have been so busy and so haven’t been able to participate in a couple of things or keep up with my faves here.

I know it’s okay and can’t be helped, but I just feel bad when that happens.

I feel so close to the other bloggers here and love keeping up with them daily.  The Holiday Season just gets us busy at times though and it is to be expected, right?

I even feel it during this time with Daddy.  We both, being LDR still, have things we have to do where we are and it takes us away from each other and our time we normally have to make a connection with one another.  It gets frustrating, at least to me, and I start doing that mind thing where my thoughts go on their stupid route of over thinking and over analyzing again! (*rolling eyes*)

I have to tell myself, “Stop that Kat!  You’re doing it again.  Your “not-true thinking” has to stop!” A lot of times it will help but sometimes I have to go into my anxious, crying mode before I finally kick myself and stop.  Crazy, right?  You would think by now I could not do this silly stuff and know better! I mean, it even affects me writing and coming up with things to write!!

But then I talk to Daddy, settle down and all is okay again.  He centers and calms me.

So, now that I can slow down a bit for the next couple of days, maybe I can get a few posts done.  🙂

Kat xx

*Pic from Pinterest

 

Misconception of Kinkies – Day 17 of 30 Days of Kink

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Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?

I have heard many misconceptions about kinky people or people in BDSM.  I have heard so many negative comments about kink/BDSM.  “It causes people to have to seek out counseling; people get hurt; it’s all sadist and evil that goes on…”  Yes, I am so totally serious!  People that have no idea and have only heard the negative about the kink/BDSM lifestyle think the absolute worst.

It makes me cringe to know that those not educated in the lifestyle have no clue what it is about and have a fear for it because it is unknown and not understood. And yes, don’t get me wrong, there are “bad” sides to it if handled incorrectly or in the extreme/harsher side of things. But, that is why SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) is such an important part of the lifestyle. And knowing and understanding what you are getting into and who you are getting into it with.

So, I am hoping with all the bloggers and writers that are sharing their experiences and able to talk freely about these things are correcting the majority of misconceptions regarding kink and BDSM.  There is such a great supportive community that we have for support and information available.

Kat xx

*Pic found on Pinterest

Play Toy – Masturbation Monday – NSFW

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Here I wait in excitement and submission

For you to come in and begin your perversive position

As you have me over the bed spread wide

You have all access to tan my hide

The way you want and need to

To give me all you feel I have due

With paddles, crops and floggers

They are all used to give me the markers

Then once this is done, you move me over and closer

So not only the feelings, but your words can take me under

To the place I go to for only you and your joy

For to you I am your little girl kitten play toy

Kat xx

*Pic from Tumblr

 

Ethics of Kink – Day 11 of 30 Days of Kink

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Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?

I’m really late today! My view on the ethics of BDSM/Kink:

The contract for BDSM, D/s, M/s, or what ever your dynamic in this lifestyle is an important part of starting out protected for all parties involved.  I know some do written and signed while others do verbal.  It lets the parties know the rules, how they want the relationship to grow and work and gives a good guideline to any future changes.

Another protection for all parties is the safe words.  They are there to protect the sub/bottom to make sure the Dom/me knows the limits they can take their sub/bottom to and that they can handle as well as protecting the Dom/me from not knowing the limits they are working with.  I have found over time the Dom/me seems to be able to read their sub/bottom better the longer they are together and the safe words may not be used or needed even though its good they are there just in case they are ever needed.

Not only are these great ethical dynamics to the lifestyle but one other thing is the support and information that those in the community are willing to help out with and share.  It has amazed me and fills my heart with joy to know there are those in the community you can trust and talk to, even over those phonies that are out there.

Kat xx

 

Kink Related Song – Day 9 of 30 Days of Kink

17bde8a914b3e12c89cac738115fc27fDay 9: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.

https://youtu.be/KdS6HFQ_LUc

S&M

Na na na, come on
Na na na, come on
Na na na, na na come on
Na na na, come on, come on
Come on, na na-na na come on
Na na na, come on
Na na na, na na, come on
Na na na, come on, come on
Come on, na na na na

Feels so good being bad
There’s no way I’m turning back
Now the pain is for pleasure
‘Cause nothing can measure

Love is great, love is fine
Out the box, out of line
The affliction of the feeling leaves me wanting more

‘Cause I may be bad but I’m perfectly good at it
Sex in the air, I don’t care, I love the smell of it
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But chains and whips excite me

‘Cause I may be bad but I’m perfectly good at it
Sex in the air, I don’t care, I love the smell of it
Sticks and stones may break my bones,
But chains and whips excite me

Na na na come on, come on, come on
I like it, like it, come on, come on, come on
I like it, like it, come on, come on, come on
I like it, like it come on, come on, come on
I like it, like it

Love is great, love is fine
Out the box, out of line
The affliction of the feeling leaves me wanting more

‘Cause I may be bad but I’m perfectly good at it
Sex in the air, I don’t care, I love the smell of it
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But chains and whips excite me

Na na na come on, come on, come on
I like it, like it, come on, come on, come on
I like it, like it, come on, come on, come on
I like it, like it come on, come on, come on
I like it, like it

S, S, S and M, M, M
S, S, S and M, M, M

Oh I love the feeling you bring to me
Oh, you turn me on
It’s exactly what I’ve been yearning for
Give it to me strong
And meet me in my boudoir
Make my body say ah, ah, ah
I like it, like it

‘Cause I may be bad but I’m perfectly good at it
Sex in the air, I don’t care, I love the smell of it
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But chains and whips excite me

‘Cause I may be bad but I’m perfectly good at it
Sex in the air, I don’t care, I love the smell of it
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But chains and whips excite me

Na na na come on, come on, come on,
I like it, like it, come on, come on, come on
I like it, like it, come on, come on, come on
I like it, like it come on, come on, come on
I like it, like it

S, S, S and M, M, M
S, S, S and M, M, M
S, S, S and M, M, M
S, S, S and M, M, M

It’s a fun song and one most people know. And it is on one of my favorite movies! 🙂

Bonus:

As a bonus, this song, Bound to You, is a song this little submissive heart just loves❣️

https://youtu.be/ryXSQOR7lqU

Kat xx

*Pic from Pinterest

Favorite Toy – Day 7 of 30 Days of Kink

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Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?  I actually have a couple of toys that are my favorite! There is one by We-Vibe that hits both the pussy and clit at the same time and ohhhh, its delicious! It is pink and white and has several settings to use.  It can do one, the other and both parts to give you the ultimate sensations.  Bad thing is, we like it so much it died!! I now have to get a new one.

The other one is the Doxy that Daddy gave me for Christmas.  I love it!  I have another wand, but its a little larger and doesn’t hit the clit area as easily as the Doxy does.  I am definitely a clit girl when it comes to toys and they both do it extremely well for me.

Now, just to get a new toy like the one that died!

Kat xx

*Pics used from Pinterest

How did you discover you were kinky? – Day 3 of 30 Days of Kink

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Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky?

Hmmm…good question.

A few years ago, I felt something was missing in my life (including myself) and I started reading more, realizing I kept going for the kinky erotic type books.  I then started paying more attention to myself and my body.  I started thinking about things that were kinky that might key me in to what I like and that turn me on.

Once I started thinking about it, I realized one incident that had me turned on that completely confused me and surprised me, and that was when a friend of mine pulled me over his knee and started spanking me! I was mortified yet turned on at the same time! WHAT?!?!

So then I started paying attention to other things, tried some things and realized, mmmm….I like this, how can I do more of this? So I started researching and finding out the different aspects of Kink and BDSM. The fetishes that go into it, the different kinks and the meaning of so much.  I started talking to people, both Dom(mes) and submissives.  Chatting on social media and finding blogs about the lifestyle. Met my Daddy through chatting on one of the social medias.  Its been a lot of ups and downs and fighting with my inner voices and emotions, but it’s been amazing, the things I learned and how I have gotten to this point and who I am now.

So, the answer to the question is when I realized there was something missing in my life and in me a few years ago. 🙂

How did you discover you were kinky?

Kat xx

*Pic from Pinterest